Should I Quit Drinking? A Values-Based Decision Framework
You're questioning your relationship with alcohol. Maybe it's become a crutch, maybe you're concerned about health, or maybe you're just curious what life without it would be like. But social norms, habit, and uncertainty about whether you have a 'real problem' make the decision complicated.
Key Takeaway
This decision is fundamentally about Physical Health vs. Mental Clarity. Your choice will also impact your social integration.
The Core Values at Stake
This decision touches on several fundamental values that may be in tension with each other:
Physical Health
Your body's response to alcohol and long-term health considerations. Even moderate drinking has health implications.
Mental Clarity
Your cognitive function and emotional stability. Evaluate how alcohol affects your mind, even when you're not drinking.
Social Integration
How drinking fits into your social life. Consider whether not drinking would isolate you or reveal the depth of your relationships.
Self-Control
Your relationship with the substance. Evaluate whether you drink intentionally or whether drinking controls you.
Authenticity
Whether drinking aligns with who you want to be. Consider if you're drinking because you enjoy it or because it's expected.
5 Key Questions to Ask Yourself
Before making this decision, work through these questions honestly:
- 1How do I honestly feel about my drinking—proud, neutral, or ashamed?
- 2Have I tried to cut back and found it difficult?
- 3What role does alcohol play in my life—enjoyment, coping, or habit?
- 4How would my life be different without alcohol?
- 5Am I questioning my drinking because of a genuine concern or external pressure?
Key Considerations
As you weigh this decision, keep these important factors in mind:
Watch Out For: Minimization Bias
Problem drinkers almost universally minimize their drinking and its impact. 'I don't have a real problem,' 'I could stop if I wanted to,' and 'It's not that bad' are common self-deceptions. If you're questioning your drinking enough to read this, that itself is worth paying attention to.
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Sources
- Witkiewitz, K., et al. (2019). Recovery from alcohol use disorder: Phenotypes and predictors. Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research.doi:10.1111/acer.14171
- Babor, T. F., et al. (2010). Alcohol: No Ordinary Commodity. Oxford University Press.doi:10.1093/acprof:oso/9780199551149.001.0001